Thursday, January 14, 2010

It's Been a While...

I haven't updated my blog in a while sooo... there isn't much going on. Still with Kelly. We've known each other for 8 1/2 months and have been together (going out, dating, or going steady as my mom would say) for 6 1/2 months. My longest relationship which probably sounds short to some people, some might even say it's not a surprise, especially people who "know" me based on stories and impressions from other people, but it merely means I've met somebody that matches with me pretty well. Thanks eharmony. She has an excellent way of saying the right thing that would put me at ease if we are arguing instead of saying something akin to pooring gasoline on a fire.

This past 2 week vacation out in New Hampshire has really made me think about how soon I want 3 kids in my home but she comes with 3 kids. I can't have her without them. Not that they aren't great kids but I will be skipping several steps a lot of other couples have. Getting married and then having an empty home for a while and then gradually you introduce children into the mix. I will jump from single bachelor to being married (a big change as is) with three children in the home. Anyways, it's a long way off. I need to seriously start looking for work out there and then once I relocate, the next steps can be looked at.

We still have a lot of time to get to know each other. I used to want to rush everything but now that I see it form a new perspective, anybody who spends a couple weeks or months together and then gets engaged and married quickly is just asking for problems later on. I'm not saying God can't bless that union but the more time you take in the relationship now, the more you are ready to face the challenges of marriage. But everybody is different. I've seen friends get engaged after a month together and now they have a small boy and are missionaries in Indonesia. Pretty cool...

My roomate is a bum. We made a deal that he would cook meals for me every now and then cuz he's an awesome cook and I would pay for toilet paper, paper towels, water and garbage, and salt for the water softener. He's cooked once in a month and a half. And he doesn't clean... which didn't bother me so much last year but this year I'm more motivated to keeping my house a little cleaner. I'm getting tired of living in bachelor filth, to be quite honest... but it's hard to clean when the roomate doesn't. He complained about spending 2 minutes the other day to clean out moldy food from the refrigerator? Really?

My mom's heart surgery went well. Her valve was repaired successfully without needing to use any cow parts (that's right, cow parts). She had a collapsed lung but they said it was not unusual for that type of surgery and she came home yesterday after 6 days in the hospital. It kind of worried me since she is 59 and getting older but God watched over everything and it went great. I'll be working from home tomorrow because she can't be alone for about 2 weeks and my dad has to work.

But anyways, life is kind of the same routine. Keep having my devotions, meeting with Wally, attempting to change the areas I am weak, become a better friend, boyfriend, employee, and Servant of Christ. It's not always easy to talk about and share with people since I'm not the preaching type but maybe as I grow, more people will see my actions and the way I am...